Showing posts with label Un-fun Things. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Un-fun Things. Show all posts

Monday, April 15, 2013

Of Hysterectomies and Un-Spring Cleaning



So, I have a hysterectomy scheduled for the near future. The reasons are various and serious. That's all the detail I will be going into here on this public blog, but if you know me and have questions, you're welcome to ask . . . and I will probably answer. ;)

I have had a rough time of it since the beginning of this year, but God has proven Himself faithful again and again, constantly.  He is leading me, teaching me, comforting me, lovingly disciplining me, providing for me, and forever showing me His perfect love.

Few people ask to go through trials in life.  I definitely don't.  But we all must walk through them anyway at times during our earthly journey.  Oh, how I haven't wanted to endure these last few months and the next couple of months, yet how else could I possibly see God's hand at work as clearly as I can now?  It is unmistakably evident that He has had and continues to have a plan in all of this.  He has at least one new daughter that I'm aware of who came to know Him because of circumstances surrounding my surgery last month.  My silly little surgery (my first ever!) that I was so worried about and was discouraged that it had not been as successful as hoped . . . until I heard about my new sister in Christ, whom I've never met, yet have this freaky-in-a-good-way connection with.  My pity party was over instantly and was replaced with excitement and re-focus on the fact that none of this is random, I'm not being picked on, and God is working mightily!

Now, I am not looking forward to this upcoming surgery anymore than anyone else would be.  And I'm probably even less enthusiastic about the long recovery afterward.  It drives me CRAZY to sit around and do nothing.  Did you hear me?  CRAZY!!!!  (See?  I'm already showing signs . . .)  I panic sometimes just thinking about it all.  But, you know the conclusion I come to every time when I reign in my thoughts?  There's a reason!  It's good.  Not easy, but good.  And then I almost look forward to seeing what God has in mind.  What will He teach me?  How will He work?  Something's up, and I'm beginning to anticipate finding out what it is!

So, this whole recovery time thing brings me to the subject of "Un-Spring Cleaning."  What IS un-spring cleaning, you might ask.  Well, it's my abridged version of spring cleaning this year.  It's kinda like spring cleaning, but not really.  For instance, today I "worked" on the bookshelves.  I had intended to take all the books down as usual and give the shelves a good cleaning.  Then I got real.  I simply don't have time for that this time!  And it's going to be okay!  Yes, I just took down the other things on the shelves (you know, candles and other decorative things), cleaned the shelves on any surface that books don't cover, and called it "fine."  Really--how much dust gets under those books anyway, right?  My theory right now (and this is with a lot of coaching from loving friends and family who I've had to admit are right!) is that anything I don't get done before surgery and recovery will still be there after.  I have ample offers of help for things that need to continue to be done during my convalescence, but my blinds will still do their job whether or not I clean them now or in the summer.  Know what I'm saying?  I actually almost believe this!  I'm learning well! ;)

Speaking of ample offers of help, people are so kind.  I've been showered with kindness all throughout the past months and have been so blessed.  The care of my son during my upcoming surgery, meals provided, so many encouraging words and cards and helpful advice, and, most importantly, the support of so very many faithful prayer warriors.  Whenever Kevin and I have gone through a dark or troubled time in our lives, the kindness of God's people is so extra-evident, shining through like the brightest of lights.  We are so grateful to everyone who is touching our lives in these different ways.  If you are one of them--thank you from the bottom of my heart!

If you are going through a hard time, hang on!  God has not dropped you from His hand, and He definitely has a good reason for allowing difficult circumstances in your life.  Don't be afraid!  One of my favorite verses lately, one that I've heard a million times but has once again taken on new meaning for me is:

"Do not fear for I am with you;  Do not be dismayed for I am your God.  I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."  Isaiah 41:10

                                                                          AND

"Be strong and courageous.  Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, because the Lord your God goes with you; He will never leave nor forsake you."  Deut. 31:6


Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Did Jesus Live in the Basement?

I'm typically a pretty agreeable person.  I don't like to argue.  Nope, I don't like it one bit.  I don't even like silently disagreeing, though there are plenty of times I do.  Over the past few years, God has been teaching me that it's not always good to remain silent, and I've been learning to "listen" for His guidance on when it's okay and good to stay quiet and when it's best to step outside my comfort zone and say something.

I've been feeling for a few days now, since I read and had time to digest the popular blog post by Jen Hatmaker called In The Basement, that I need to say something in response to it.  My little blog here is really not very significant in the scheme of things, so my words aren't likely to make much of an impact, but I still need to be obedient to what I feel the Lord is impressing upon me to write.  Please read that blog post if you haven't, so you know exactly what it is I'm talking about here.

It was a delight to read the heart, the writing style, and the obvious love behind the post.  I sincerely enjoyed reading it and looking at things from a unique perspective.  I was drawn in from the beginning, being a sufferer of tornado-phobia myself.

I agreed with much of what was written--the examining of our own hearts instead of others' and the hatred of "abuse and violence and crowded orphanages and trafficked sixth-graders," for example-- there was so much good stuff there, I can't possibly list it all here.  Yet something was nagging at my spirit.  I feel like . . . well, like, there's more to the story!



I don't agree that we would be right to just park ourselves in the basement for keeps.

Yeah, many people generally flee to the basement to escape the literal storm.  But, first of all, not everyone has that privilege.  Some people don't have basements.  Others have occupations that keep them above ground even during the worst of a storm.  They aren't wrong or bad because of it.

Secondly, we don't remain in the basement.  We have to come up and face the aftermath of the storm.  For many who survive the storm, the aftermath is much worse than the storm itself.  Yet those details must be attended to!

I completely "get" the fatigue and disgust at the cultural wars waging in our country.  It is so very tiring and becomes hateful on both "sides" sometimes.  Beyond hateful, really.  I don't disagree with that.

But that doesn't mean we are to totally disengage from the war.  It doesn't mean that everyone who is fighting is using nasty methods.  It doesn't mean there's nothing worth fighting for.

Jesus argued with people all the time.  He knew how and chose to do so lovingly.  He made many people uncomfortable with his accountability.

He didn't have his own agenda, though.  He was all about His FATHER's business!

Yes, there are devout, well-meaning Christians who think they are "fighting for the Lord," but who somewhere down the line go off on their own tangents, forgetting that they ought not to be name-calling or blowing up buildings (abortion clinics) or withholding respect from certain groups of people.  It seems to become more about them personally being "heard" at all costs.  These haters are LOUD, just like many liberally-minded people can be very LOUD.  Scary even.  It isn't right to behave that way.

Just because those people stoop to those tactics, does not mean there aren't also many who fight fair!  The Bible makes it clear that this life is a war, that we are to stand on the side of righteousness and fight the good fight!  God is using many strong, steady, courageous, persevering men, women, teenagers and children who are willing to keep their eyes on Him and His agenda.  They love people with the best kind of accountability--loving, biblical, Christ-like--naming sin sin without stooping to the hateful tactics of LOUD foolishness.

Somebody NEEDS to be vigilantly aware of what's going on and willing to stand up for truth!  If God isn't calling you, dear reader, to be that one right now, then you need to be obedient to that.  But we need to support those whom God places in the heat of the battle, not accuse them of just being LOUD and hateful like those who actually are LOUD and hateful.  The ones God has called and who are responding rightly to that call are NOT like all the rest!

Of course it's okay to rest sometimes.  Jesus did that!  But He always got back to work.  He loved people, and part of the way He showed His love was by telling them He knew of their sin, and, more importantly, what could be done about it!  He did not run away from conflict!

If we all stay in the basement, the world has no chance of getting any better.  I personally am so thankful for those who stay above and fight in ways I don't yet know how to.  I'm grateful that they make the most of opportunities that I'll likely never have.  If those people had not been fighting for many years now, before most of us even took the time to realize there was a war, we would not even have the dwindling freedoms as Christians that we're clinging desperately to today.

I believe it is disrespectful and incorrect to lump all the warriors in one lot and say or imply they are all hateful, obnoxious, and using the Gospel as a "bludgeoning tool."  This is false.

It is not automatically hateful to call homosexuality (as one of many examples) wrong.  It IS wrong!  To name-call and degrade people who have chosen that lifestyle is hateful and wrong as well.  It's just as unloving, though, to pretend what they are doing is okay, that there aren't often horrible consequences tied to that choice, both for the homosexual person himself or herself and to the society that lies about it in the name of "tolerance."  There's no love there!

Correctly-handled accountability is not hateful!

And there is no love in just allowing people to die in their delusions, not even trying to help them see the truth.

There is ministry happening in that basement, but there are other things going on in other places.  And that's a good thing.

Now, as a blogger (on a smaller scale) myself, I'm aware that people can misunderstand the points of our blog posts from time to time.  I'm really open to the possibility that I missed something (though I've read it several times) or just didn't understand the central message of that post.  And even if the message was that she thinks we should stay in the basement and not try to fight for what's right, it is absolutely her right to think and say so.

Just as it is mine to say I disagree with that part of it.

This post is not directed at the writer of that post.  It's just the response of my heart to what I read, and maybe an opportunity for a few readers to consider what the Lord impresses upon them to think and do about these cultural battles . . . which are not likely to end anytime soon.

In the end, it's really not about Chick-fil-A or Obamacare.  It's about the lies and deceit and injustice that have been allowed to run rampant through our country, and what God is asking us individually and collectively to do about it.  It starts with the individual.  God doesn't want us to be disheartened and afraid!  He doesn't want us to wallow in our fatigue over the state of our nation.

What does He want you to do?  What does He want you to say?  Will you do it?  Will you say it?  (I'm absolutely asking myself these questions!)

May HIS agenda be foremost on our minds, and may we glorify HIM in all we think and do and say!






Tuesday, December 6, 2011

The Facebook "Unfriend:" Is it Effective?

Sometimes I like to write about stupid stuff, but usually I like to write things that might either encourage or help someone else.  Today's blog post is a little ridiculous, yet hopefully helpful in some off-the-wall way. Since it's been on my mind off and on lately, and since I can offer an insider's view, I thought I might be able to help someone today by writing about "unfriending."

I'm talking, of course, about Facebook "friends" who remove other "friends" from their "friends" lists.  If this is something you ever find yourself considering, maybe a  glimpse into the reaction of one who has been "unfriended" might help you make up your mind. :)

Both my husband and I have been "unfriended" a couple times each, for political or worldview differences, and then just recently, we were served a double whammy when, in one fell swoop, we were both unfriended at   the same time by the same peeved person. 

We wish our unfrienders no ill-will whatsoever.  It's disappointing to have contact abruptly ended like that, but it's a choice the people have made, and there's nothing that can be done about it now.  So, the purpose of this blog post is not to embarrass anyone.  I certainly wouldn't mention names, even though they're not likely to see this.  This isn't really about them.  They've pretty much taken themselves out of the picture for now, as sad as that is.

No, this is for you, if you're considering being an unfriender.

More specifically, if you're thinking about unfriending someone for reasons other than being cursed at or otherwise harassed, stalked or abused via Facebook.*  That's another story altogether.  I'm not even referring to people who are just trying to shorten their friend lists. Nope.  To be even more specific, if you think you might want to unfriend someone because you don't like their God (or god(s))** or their politics, this is a secret you should know about:

Think twice!!  You may not leave the impression or get the reaction you were hoping for!

If you're looking to hurt the unfriended, I must admit you might have a bit of success there.  I'll give you that!  I personally have experienced a temporary sting at the first knowledge of an unfriending over differences.  Thoughts of, "Did the person really think so little of me as a whole person that he/she would just drop me altogether in a moment of irritation?"

It's not long, though, before the sting subsides in the remembrance of the fact that my worth does not lie in the thoughts, good or bad, of others.

When the sting wears away, what am I left with?  A sense of immaturity and intolerance on the part of the unfriender.  I'm not tempted to be swayed to his/her way of thinking.  I'm not falling apart because he/she has rejected my Facebook friendship.  I'm simply left feeling sorry for him/her, and, though I respect him/her as a person, I do not highly regard his/her way of handling things.

Sure, there are some people who thrive on people feeling sorry for them, and do all they can to keep people from regarding their ways highly.  By all means, the "Facebook unfriend" might be just the thing for them!  The people who have unfriended us, though, are not in that category, but it's too late to warn them about how they will come across!

If only I had thought about blogging about this sooner . . .

So, if you've already unfriended people over "silly" things (not the serious abuse mentioned above), there's not much you can do about it now, except to give it more thought next time you're tempted.  But if, now or in the future, you are contemplating that move, let me just encourage you to stop yourself!  You will be taken much more seriously, when you have a statement to make, if you state your opinion, agreeing or opposing, in a respectful way.  If you feel somebody isn't respectful in the way they present their opinions and beliefs, a loving reproof takes more courage, but is more effective than a passive aggressive "unfriending."

Either way, you have the freedom to unfriend and leave the impressions that go along with that if you wish.  And if I'm one you unfriend, I won't stop caring about you because of it--I'm sure there are many others who feel that way about their unfrienders as well.  I do, though, think it only fair to reveal the truth from an insider's point of view, so you can make an educated decision. ;)

And, take heart, any fellow unfriended  Facebook participants out there!  Maybe the word will spread in time! :)



*Harassment on Facebook is a serious problem and is in no way being included as part of the "silly" reasons people unfriend others.  And sometimes there can be a fine line there.  But I think people in general know the difference between when they are unfriending harmful FB acquaintances and when they are being petty about things.

**There, of course, is only one true God, but not everyone believes in Him, and that is a choice He allows them to make. :)

Sunday, August 29, 2010

19 Things

Being around whiners isn't fun, so I try not to be one myself.  Complaining doesn't accomplish much in most situations.  But life isn't swell at all times, and sometimes I still just feel the need to express what's bugging me.  I thought maybe if I get it all out in one controlled blog, it might prevent me from spewing forth in a later moment of emotion. ;)

But, what to call my list?  "Pet Peeves" hardly seems appropriate, since the adjective, "pet" speaks of nurturing something, and I'm trying to purge myself of these irritations so as to NOT nurture them.  How about "Un-fun Things?"  While that may understate the ickiness of some items on my list, I really don't want to use the "hate" word over-zealously, either.  So, Un-fun Things it will be.

Top 19 Un-fun Things

  1. When you're in the middle of a great book from the library, but you don't have time to finish it in three weeks, so you attempt to renew it and the renewal fails because someone else has it on hold.  That just happened to me last week.  I would just love to have access to the name and number of the "holder," and plead my case.  Surely they, too, have taken more than three weeks to read a book before because they're doing so many other things!  They would understand, I know it!  Of course, I suppose I'm the only person in the world who puts books on hold and can't finish them in three weeks. . .
  2. Spiders.  The more bulbous and leggy, the worse they are.  Ugh!!!!
  3. When I make my shopping list, with great care to detail and coupon usage, and then most of the items I was going to get great deals on are no longer in stock--the day after the sale started!  Grrr . . .
  4. When I make a mistake.  Perfectionism is a poison.
  5. When the electricity goes out.  Who doesn't think that's un-fun, besides Amish people?
  6. Verizon and Frontier Communications.  Verizon needs to learn customer service and Frontier is just shady.
  7. When someone shoots the messenger, so to speak.  It's not the messenger's fault.  Grow up and take responsibility!  Honestly--it's really juvenile.
  8. When Walmart won't take my coupons or the cashier scowls at me like she thinks I'm trying to pull one over on her.  It's a COUPON for crying out loud!!!!  Just scan it and move on with your life..  It's not that complicated!
  9. When I can't be sarcastic when I really want to be because I have this deal with myself that I won't use sarcasm to get my point across.  Except that I slip now and then, including in this post a time or two! ;)
  10. The way so many people in our country don't care about what's really important, and the consequences that are forthcoming if we don't get our act together!  Wake up, America!
  11. When I have a scathingly brilliant idea and am excited to put it into action, and then it fails.  So disappointing!
  12. Idiotic drivers.  I don't think that needs further explanation.
  13. People who know better, but make excuses instead.
  14. Lies
  15. The reading and language arts teachers manuals I'm using this year.  Great curriculum, dumb set-up for the teacher!
  16. Calling a customer service number and having to talk to a machine (though I must admit to a certain amusement when I hear other people saying seemingly-random words into their phones!). lol
  17. Going to a store and seeing those ridiculous U-scans.  The first time I saw one of those years ago, and the lady directed me to use one, I literally thought I was going to be on Candid Camera (the one with Suzanne Sommers and that one guy).  They had to be kidding right?!  If you think about it, you're paying to have to do the job of a person who should be there.  You don't get a discount for checking out your own groceries.  Maybe it's because I love *people* so much.  I dislike that people are being replaced by machines.
  18. Stepping in dog poop
  19. When I realized I've wasted time or squandered an opportunity.

That's my list for now.  Next time I'll have to write a list of my favorite things, to balance this out.  Actually, that would be a much longer list!  So many blessings . . . :)